In a post yesterday, I quoted John Piper in This Momentary Marriage as saying that the point of marriage is to display the covenant-keeping love of Christ for his church. And I mentioned my friends Davin and Lauren, whose truly momentary marriage is a picture of two people who through deep scars of pain have pointed us to that real purpose of marital union. All of it has me thinking perpetually and seriously about what my life and my marriage are for.
And as I reflect, I think that’s one of the greatest ways to honor Davin, namely, to see that he’s a gift to the church—and so is the story he told with his marriage—given by God as an example to follow and a call to embrace. That he would die to endorse the pages of his biography and his message means there’s a weightiness and a solemn obligation to listen to what he said. As he continues to speak to us today, I’m realizing one of the great instruments God is using to play his life to us in stereo is his momentary marriage.
“Marriage is meant by God to put the gospel reality on display in the world. That is why we are married. That is why all married people are married” (This Momentary Marriage, 26).
It’s not fundamentally about getting my needs met, feeling in love, being sexually satisfied, or filling up some mysterious tank within my soul. Marriage is a responsibility and a call to tell the world about Jesus, who gave his life up for his Bride, the Church (Ephesians 5:25).
“In your love you see only the heaven of your own happiness, but in marriage you are placed at a post of responsibility towards the world and mankind… marriage is more than something personal—it is a status, and office” (Bonhoeffer, Letters and Papers from Prison, quoted in This Momentary Marriage, 15).
So, will your marriage tell the truth?